Being the “Good Guy”

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Toying with what’s right and what’s wrong is like playing with fire. Parents always asked, “if your friend goes and jump off a bridge, are you gonna do the same?” I always felt the right answer was no, but the little voice in me says I’m jumping if he’s jumping.

“You’re a great guy, I just think we would be better as friends” man if I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard that in my life I’d be rich as hell. I think this is just an excuse to say that you weren’t ready for a man in your life or that you just don’t want a good man. Either or I can’t be mad at the decision, it just makes me keep being me. You would think if you presented someone with all the goods to eat that they would dig in, but people would just rather admire then turn around and go eat fast food. I guess the saying you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink is very accurate. The younger I was I use to feel as if it was something wrong with me, but the older I get I feel that women want something simple but don’t know how to enjoy a simple lifestyle. For some, the feeling of not having to worry about your spouse creeping around would be ideal, but for others, they’ll see it as a challenge almost. A challenge to see if this is really real or is this all a game?

You have to respect the game. My coaches would tell me if you do right by the game it’ll do right by you. You can’t cut corners and give half effort and expect to be fully rewarded. A lot of bads may come along while playing the game, but that is when I take it back a couple of blogs and say “Charge it to the Game“. We treat people that we know are better than what we give them less than because we can. It’s kinda sad, but its a daily reflection of life.

How many women lives will I enter before someone realize that I’m the cream of the crop? I don’t even like bragging on myself, but let me rap real quick.  My personality A1 like steak sauce, I’m addicting like that first free try of coke. I’m smart, goal oriented, a gentleman, in college, and have my own vehicle, what more are y’all looking for? I’ve always said that you could be everything a woman ask for and need, but if she can’t see that or if that’s not what she wants at the moment she’ll throw it all away and settle for a situation she thinks is better. Don’t confuse this as me being “pick me” right now, but feel my frustration when you know that you’re a king, but can’t obtain your crown.

“You either die a hero… or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain.”

I think the worst part about being a good man is seeing the girls you help bring up from their lows walk right out your life like you was never there. It was love at the moment so you’ll never regret the act, but the outcome from the situation that occurred hurt more than ever.

A heartbreak can kill someone. That’s a little fun fact for you. Heartbreaks can be a period of no return. This is when you see the switch from the hero to the villain. The worst part is the feeling you get before you make the switch. It’s like Spiderman once he got the black suit. He knew he was doing bad, but it all felt so good. No one ever said being a good guy would be an easy task. Sometimes you have to get to the point to where no matter what other people outcomes and reactions might be,  you’ll still stay strong in what you believe in and allow no one to steer you off that course. Life will always throw you curveballs though, so never think just because you have all the qualifications that you’re always the best qualified.


15 Replies to “Being the “Good Guy””

  1. I am here for this , yes .
    It’s pretty interesting to hear/read from a guys perspective since many aren’t as expressive .
    I Stan !

  2. Wow! You hit home with this one. I never thought about stuff like this from a guy’s perspective. Great read, got me thinking!

  3. It was interesting to see a guys perspective on this (Great read)! One thing that came to mind as I was reading was sometimes we don’t understand how worthy we are so sometimes people who aren’t in the same walk of life as us or aren’t necessarily on the same level gravitate towards us and we give them more access to us than they deserve. This is why good people get burned but as good people we have to be able to discern whether that person is conducive for where we’re going in life. That’s what I use to determine whether they’re a potiential significant other or just a potential friend.

    1. I love your comment. I agree we sometimes allow people to get over more on us when we aren’t as solid in our foundation. It’s our job to grow and learn from our mistakes though, you can’t put your hand in a fire more than once and not expect to keep being burned. We give people a lot more chances than we should because we feel we can see the potential in them, but we can’t fall in love with potential.

  4. Timing is so important. I’ve often felt like I’ve gone out of my way to be the closest thing to perfection for someone while obtaining nothing in return. This really hit me because I understand both sides of this reality. People have to be in the proper mental, emotional and maybe in even spiritual place to be willing to accept a person wholeheartedly and exercise reciprocity. This was dope!

    1. I love that first statement. I agree very much with everything you said, maybe the statement “right person, wrong timing” has some value to it.

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  7. I liked the ending. It’s so true that no matter how good we know we are, some people may not be ready or even want what we’re offering and that’s more thank okay. I believe that the real strength that comes from dealing with that is continuing to be good, even better than you were previously.

    1. I like that last sentence, thats real. A lot of times we fall off after the people we are going after no longer shows interest, but that’s when you show your real self and just keep going strong.

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